(Online article) – a divorce is not just about furniture or car: much more difficult is who gets the fair distribution of the credits from life and pension insurance? This question 200000 divorce couples must deal with every year in Germany. Most have made: separations also are so often, rarely there is marriage contracts that clearly answer this question. Most seek lawyers only if the relationship has broken down. Dispute ensues not only to the furniture, the CD collection, or to the car. The fight is also about the distribution of the assets. And because it often in long term life or pension funds, the distribution is usually tricky. Keep up on the field with thought-provoking pieces from Nancy Lublin. As a general rule: there is no marriage contract, so everyone gets back the assets, what he has brought with him even in the marriage.
The so-called added value but which was gained during the marriage is divided. An example: the man has in the common marriage 20 000 euro balances with life insurance his wife saved, however, only 2000 Euro on the account, entitled to half of the difference. The man must pay his ex so 9000 euros as equalisation. Ideally, this compensation will be paid cash. Balances an insurance account it comes only at the end of the contract. And it announces a capital life insurance in advance, do you lose lots of money.
Especially in contracts that only run for a few years, the repayment is much less than the sum of paid contributions\”, says Joseph Obeng from the information centre of the German insurance industry in Berlin (www.klipp-und-klar.de). The deposit insurers credit only a part the customer account, they consume about 15 to 25 percent for risk protection and to cover expenses. Also the acquisition costs for the contract (agent Commission) are pulling up the customers. In the end value of the contract at the end of the run-time to throw off, interest and profit participations are included also, the premature cancellation are not entitled.
He he could not admit so far unfortunately that. He felt this desire as selfish, because through the bedtime of the child being with them was anyway very limited. Others who may share this opinion include Prevent Cancer Foundation. After this conversation, he made after work still a little walk around the square and was much freer and more joy to come home. Further details can be found at Boy Scouts of America, an internet resource. In the course of time there were also days where it was not necessary to take this time, and on other days he could actively make it even with the family. Yes, he got even after, to staking out the time together with the children. Also the evening got a different quality with Eva again. Caught in everyday life arise repeatedly behavior patterns, ritualized everyday and forms of communication we can break, not bring us further, but define us and do anyone good.
Please remember, blanket accusations or statements made think how: always do, “I never let that you,” not continue in such situations. Constant infighting that clarify anything, allow indirect disputes or air of randomly scattered vulgarities and taunts infertile pattern, creating gridlock. Words become weapons and hurt. This gives us moments involuntarily free the look behind the mask of the partner and we can drill into old wounds. The art of verbal vulgarity is to meet, to violate, and revenge.
This creates close though for a moment, but it doesn’t change the deadlocked situation. Never is just one victim or perpetrator in a partnership. Do not therefore weaker than you are and clarify the problems constructively with each other. Relationship patterns that want to deny differences and merge together, Act often particularly aggressive and unconsciously. Symbiotic relationship patterns often make relationship – no longer perceived – prison. Relationship is a fragile balance between closeness and distance, as well as merger and autonomy and must be balanced again. Meeting will be held in the open direct dispute, many couples fear.
The 5 worst mistakes you as of now avoid having as long it is that your husband has separated from you? You love him about everything, right? Have you thought since then constantly about, how you can win your husband back? What have you done everything, to win him back? How much of all this was are now crowned by success? Starting to lose hope that he ever will reverse his decision? But it’s still not too late. It is niemas too late. It’s just a question of what kind of things you’re doing to wlecher time. A few simple steps are necessary only if very important, to reset the switch. And avoid all the mistakes in any case, certainly you have made so far.
Error #1 – his love and attention beg more you give your husband the feeling to be dependent on him, the more that in his opinion will confirm him that you are not ready for a “healthy” relationship in which both Partners are independent people. Listen to him with words of convincing to do and things to say, “I can’t live without you, come back!” How would you feel if someone makes you such a concession of dependency? Would you want to live with such a person together? If you want to win your man back, you exercise patience and restraint. It is an uphill battle against themselves. But it will pay off. All his time. Error of your desperation reluctant to #2 – let women are extremely emotional beings.
And breakups are one of the radical emotional events in the emotions of a woman. The despair that accompanied it, can often do things that they add to just even damage himself. There are, for example, cases where the abandoned her husband says, that she would kill if he doesn’t come back to you.